Resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress — such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems or workplace and financial stressors. … Boy a lot of us are going through these things, don’t we?
The world is changing quickly and we can easily forget how we dealt with these stressors in the past.
When new stresses come up we think this time is the time we might not survive. We think its never been this bad before. We sit scrolling on our phone scaring ourselves.
There is something in the human experience that minimizes what we have actually already faced and overcome.
Maybe we have a forgetter button.
How quickly we downplay the times we have acted from courage in the past. Maybe we need reminders of the tools of resilience.
So what are the tools of resilience?
Well pediatrician and adolescent specialist Ken Ginsburg, MD, FAAP introduces the 7 C’s Model of Resilience – competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution, coping, and control.
Even though we are supposed to be taught these in childhood, many of us were not. And the ones of us that did often need a refresher course.
I like is the tool of connection. I find connecting with others I hear how they coped. And good friends remind me of all the other times I got through things, which gives me my confidence back.
The main thing to me is to acknowledge the struggle. And in the process develop a little mercy for yourself. And if you have mercy for yourself you might even have more for the folks around you.
Do you need some encouragement at work? Are you planning a conference?
Well then my hilarious keynote called That Which Doesn’t Kill You, Makes you funnier is a hilarious 60-minute talk on how to get through challenges in life by cultivating resilience. And keeping your sense of humour while you do it.
Organizations from health care to women in business to leaders in the global economy have booked this talk.
And by the way, I have written a book by the same name is selling here on Amazon. Its a lighter version of the talk dealing with personal stories that deal with resilence in a funny way.