Would it be okay with you if money got easier?

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This was the opening question in the new DVD The Energy of Money by the amazing life and money coach of Marie Nemeth.

I don’t know about you but when I think of money the last word that comes to mind, is easy.

When I think of money I think math class. And me sitting in a small kiddie chair with a really big calculator.

Being an entrepreneur and creative type money has been a worry of mine many times over the years. Matching the flow of work with flow of cash.

However, I know that getting right with the money in and out of my life has been the single biggest act of self love I have performed over the past five years.

This has not about going on a budget. ( that is like the word diet-it means you’re about to break it and go on a binge.) It has been about creating a plan and getting honest with myself of what I do with cash.

It means taking action. I am talking about weaning off credit cards and tracking my spending so that I am NOT always spending out of emotion. Emotional spending that has the companion,  justification. Justification sounds like:  ‘It was on sale,  look at how much I saved . Or, “I just had. After all, my kids wanted  it.”

I have come to know it’s not a deal if I have to debt to get it.

Late in life I learned that if I save for what I love rather than just what I want I get a lot of good things.

I have come to know that money is not about making grand gestures. It’s about taking small action steps into awareness.

For me money is just an indicator of things being in or out of balance. For instance when there was a single category of spending that is always out of whack, I realize that it’s an indicator that I am usually spending to fill an unmet need.

For example, whenever I went out with one of my friends I always overspent. Why? Because we had a falling out and when I got back together with her I wanted to just be free and not so uptight.  But I couldn’t afford our time together. Then, I did the emotional work on that person and made amends to them, the overspending stopped. The opportunities to spend more in her presence didn’t cease, but my emotional guilt did.  I have learned it is not about the money, it’s about the feelings the money creates.

There have been tighter times for sure. Everybody is feeling it. But if I am chronically short on cash there are inevitably money leaks; places where money drips out of my life without me being mindful.

Or there are time leaks where time is leaking out without me being mindful, which ironically leads to money leaks.

This is what Marie’s video is about.  The money and time energy leaks, the sludge of debting and how to take small doable steps with your cash so you can get have less anxiety.

I think the most powerful sentence Marie said was,” Your commitment to action needs to become bigger than your commitment to anxiety.”

What if a small action would lower your anxiety? And if less anxiety would make life easier? Would you consider that?

If so check out Marie, she’s the hat trick of coaches: Compassionate, clear and kind!

How can you commit to action rather than anxiety? Comment below!

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4 Responses to “Would it be okay with you if money got easier?”

  1. Rachel

    Great message – I’ve found that it took me a very long time to give up my addiction to anxiety. I really thought the racing heart and thoughts were the way life was supposed to be.

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  2. Deborah

    Yes Rachel it was how I viewed things as well. ( love money, the whole life!

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  3. Deb

    So good for me to read, Deb, as my sister has a birthday coming up and I so much would love to take her to a fancy spa for a day but it isn’t in my budget right now. And she wouldn’t be expecting it or feeling badly about not getting it (as I have never even mentioned it). It’s just a yearning- probably because I’m sick of winter. It’s a yearning like crushed raspberries on a stick dipped in chocolate is a yearning- neither one of which needs to be acted upon by me, today. I do not like living in anxiety- really prefer calmness, don’t you know. But anxiety is a default for me like fearing the future won’t hold enough money is also a default. but I don’t need to go there today.

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    • Deborah

      Beautiful sharing, Deb. Yes to give gifts I think is an innate urge. A way to connect and be generous to someone we love. But to debt or “constantly mortgaging the future” with gifts we can’t afford. To just be enough as we are! That is emotional freedom!

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